Get Over It

Are you a person suffering from rejection in love??..Are you someone who finds it difficult to get over your ex??..Then this post is meant for you..People have done this before, but this is the first time I am playing a love guru on my blog..I have done this in my way..Hope it helps you, if not now, in the future atleast ;) :P

Rejection in love is certainly painful..Here are some thumb rules and facts that will help you get over the one you love(presuming that you are willing for a change)..

(1) Comprehend the fact that you aren't the only one suffering from love loss..Now how often do we see people whose love proposals are immediately being accepted??..It is only in the bollywood films that we see the easy-to-fall-in-love crap..So you better realize that every 7 out of 10 applications for love end up being rejected..Nevertheless, 2 out of the remaining 3 applications end up being torn though successfully accepted (Break up)..So, finally we get to see only 1 couple in love out of every 10 people and of course god never signs a bond that the couple will live happily for the rest of their lives..

(2) Get your ass of those romantic novels and movies..Stay away from them until you find a new interest or atleast until you are out of the trauma..The worst part of rejection or a break up is that people end up empathizing themselves as the protagonist in those lovey-dovey movies..So buddy !! If you are a boy, better realize that you aren't Landon Cartor from "Walk to remember"..And if you are a girl, better realize that you aren't Bella of the Twilight Saga..You are "YOU" for god sake..

(3) If you are into rock music, just switch your genre to death metal or mad rock..Even psychedelic rock would do..I would suggest stuff like Lamb of god or Korn..The psycho kind of lyrics and the cacophony of the electric guitars will surely stimulate your hormones and pump in some energy into the nerves..Well, even if you aren't into music, you can still give it a try..Listening to music and keeping yourself busy is lot better than sitting alone, lovestruck like a loser..
Caution: Like I already said in point 2, stay away from love songs specially the ones like James Blunt..

(4) Manipulate your feelings for him/her..I classify love into two classes..One kind of love is stimulated by beauty and the other kind is stimulated by experiences or the person's character..If you are feeling low thinking of his/her beautiful face or the wonderful hair he/she has got or some stupid stuff like that, you better have a look at the world around you once..Honestly, this is not my type of sentence but I will say it for you.."The world is full of hot chicks and cool guys"..So stop thinking about how you will miss his/her beauty..On the other hand if your love is based on the person's character, you can really try and start observing the people around you..When you watch your close friends or loved ones with deep insight, you will realize that each person has a unique character that appeals to you in a way or other..Each one of us are masterpieces made by god..When you admire all the people around you for their unique traits with an open mind, you will realize that the summation of the lovable characteristics of the one you love is probably negligible to that compared to the summation of lovable characteristics of all the people around you..

(5) Dress properly and say to yourself that you are sexy..For heaven's sake donot try to look like a depressed Devdas..Give more attention to your looks than ever before..Try to sport a new look without overdoing it..That will give you a lot of confidence..Few compliments when added will surely boost up your bruised ego..

(6) Neither should you stalk the one you love, seeking redemption nor should you totally stop speaking to him/her..Never ever pester the person to love you..When the person you love is not bothered about the way you feel, why the hell are you trying to give a fuck about him/her..Donot surrender your ego to the one you love..Try and show some attitude to him/her..In a way showing attitude will unconsciously send them a message that he/she is stupid shit and they are in the process of being flushed..But then I must say that you should not stop speaking to him/her abruptly..That might worsen your mental state..So, do speak but keep the talk casual..Don't go too personal though..So, Make sure that you are there but you never care..

(7) Try to hate him/her..Most of them would say this is impossible but you can surely make an attempt..If not in reality, atleast in your imagination..The fact that the person has consciously or unconsciously given you this much of pain, is a good enough reason to hate him/her..Just try and think of the fact that he/she is never going to stay along with you..In the years to come, he/she would be making love to a loser bitch/muddlehead..Ahem Ahem..So, stop living with him/her in your dreams and try to understand reality..When you get a hold of reality, you will see pain first..Pain will give rise to anger..Anger will give rise to hate..We are humans after all..Donot regret that you started to hate him/her..Love makes a person weak..Hatred is a stronger emotion than love my friend !! Use your hate to get over the agony..Once you get over it, make sure that you give up the hatred too..

(8) Last but the most efficient one, love the ones who love you..Understand that you give the same pain to the people who love you when you fail to understand their feelings for you..You have your parents and close friends who shower unconditional love on you more than anyone else..When you redirect your feelings for the one you love towards the ones who love you, the agony will slowly fade and all your experiences with the one you love will get added into the stack of memories in your brain..As time passes, more and more things from your daily life get added into the memory stack and at a point of time the memory buffer overflows..No matter how hard you dig deep into your brain, you will find nothing but few faint memories and experiences..One day, a cute smile will lighten up your face when you reminisce these silly and sweet experiences.. :)

P.S: Keep smiling.. :)

14 Responses so far.

  1. Anonymous says:

    hey vamsi..that was really nice..very well written..even i did soo many stupid things .but i learnt soo many things from it..
    1)ur first point was totally true..there are soo many rejections out there..soo no need to think that this has happened with me only...
    2)and about ur second point..agree ..never compare ourselves with any character..i am me..
    3)yup..listening music helps a lot..even its a nice thing to do..:)
    4)and about that fourth point..totally agree..superlike.."the summation of the lovable characteristics of the one you love is probably negligible to that compared to the summation of lovable characteristics of all the people around you.."very well said..and it is really true..
    5)and yup ..dressing style should be given priority..even look more smart and handsome..:)
    6)and yaar ..i did a mistake in that part..keep talking with her..just normally..but dont start thinking..:(
    7)and hating her is really difficult but not impossible..u will feel very good after somedays..:)
    8)and the last point..very well said,...superlike.."love the ones who love you."
    and "a cute smile will lighten up your face when you reminisce these silly and sweet experiences.."..really true...

    soo vamsi really thanks for writing..sometimes i really feel bad..that she didnt even understand ..sometimes i really miss her..but its prob..because whenever we love someone we never make any conditions that she will love me in return..i just wanted to see her keep smiling everytime..i just wanted to see her haapy..thats all..she is not my girlfriend no prob..and really move on...because our best friends are with us..we cannot even compare her with our best freinds.. as u said..and just look more smart..little to her normally and dont think too much about her..u r done with her..just enjoy ur life..and always keep smiling..and love the ones whoo really loves u..enjoy ur life fully..because life is really beautifull..those moments really bring smile on ur face..:)accpet it and enjoy..

  2. Anonymous says:

    i loved it... especially last 3 points...
    very well presented...


  3. Well , guruji ;)good to see your one more facet here :P On a serious note , well I would agree to your every point .. Of course break up is not that easy and moving on is furthur more challenging , yet we have to .. Although I dont fall into that category , I hope I still can steal some of your points and help out other friends , who need to wake up to the reality ...

    Also , your language and way of presentation was very natural and wonderful ! :)

  4. vamsi says:

    @Anonymous Good that you have realized it brother..If god doesn't give you something that you wish for, it only means that he is going to give you something better than what you wished..So cheer up and smile.. :))

    @Garima Thanks for ur feedback garima.. Glad that u liked it.. :)

    @arti Dont call me guruji madame.. :) I agree wid u as well..It is good that you will help out ur friends out there..Like I usually say, like your blog posts say, you are a very good friend.. :)

  5. Anonymous says:

    so glad i came across this post!! veryy helpful and nicely presented :)

  6. Nethra says:

    The language...gosh! I never supposed that you could sound so rude. Anyway, nice points. Will try them once I fall in love and then break up. :P

  7. Nivedita says:

    U're very right! Hatred is a very strong emotion & it always helps us to get over things quickly.
    Also, never surrender ur self-respect & dignity for the other person!! If he/she doesnt care 4 ur feelings, thn they're not worth u. Probably thr's some1 else, who's much better, waiting 4 u out thr!!! :) :) after all, all's well tht ends well!!!

    nice post vamsi!!! :)

  8. Mag[m] says:

    hey bro.... simply awesome post man...what a damn description u have.... but definitely u have pealed injuries for others

  9. pavani says:

    Healing a broken heart from a lost love seems to be the most challenging venture one could imagine. the ppl around me surely need to go thru dis post and learn to move forward with their life and better themselves..
    nicely presented :)

  10. vamsi says:

    @anonymous Thanks :)

    @Nethra Yeah I wantedly used such language just to capture some quick attention :)

    @Neetu Thanks a lot neetu.. Thanks for the comment :)

    @Mag[m] Like you said, I would be glad if the post really pealed out people's injuries out there :) Thanks a lot buddy :)

    @Pavani Yeah I do agree with what u said. If people around you really need it, then don't hesitate to ask them to come and read my blog pavani :P :)

  11. Looks like you've been doing some intensive research on this! Anyways, fantastic! I'm sure it'll really help out a lot of ppl. Really liked it! :)

  12. nikhil says:

    Recessed ur memory n depicted the research well :D. All the while u were happing about getting over rejection.But, prevailing over a deplorable love cries out for 'attitute'.Neways, u hardly missed out any point.:) The harder one tries to hold onto such love, the faster it slips through the fingers. Points 8 n the closing statements(last 3 lines) of 7 is the best part of this post. I strongly adhere to the fact 'hatred is a brawny emotion' and v got to use the weapons(attitude, anger,hatred) in our arsenal to fill in the cracks of rejection as said by u :) wonderful assessment by the love guru :P, enjoyed to the fullest..
    May be I would pick up the point 6 in future.. :P

  13. hey......great one.....especially this line "In a way showing attitude will unconsciously send them a message that he/she is stupid shit and they are in the process of being flushed"
    stupid shit.....rofl!!!! loved it to the core

    but hey! you know,no matter how much you hate them....deep down you probably love them.....and that,,ofcourse depends on the reason why u broke up!
    anyway....twas good write :) keep posting:)

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